If she tells me, she wants advice
She may be testing whether you can hold the feeling without taking over the story. Ask: listen or help look for options?
COMING SOON · FREE REPAIR CARD AVAILABLE NOW
FOR PARENTS OF TEENAGE GIRLS · 2026 EDITION
I am not your project.
Stay close to your daughter without marching into her head, fixing every emotion, or turning concern into surveillance.
- 14 focused pages
- exercises for today
- no war over every eye roll
- a clear safety threshold
0321 DAYS · CLOSE, NOT CROWDING
02CONVERSATIONS WITHOUT THE EYE ROLL
01KOOKBOOK.I AM NOT YOUR PROJECT
It creates the chance that your daughter will not have to perform a more convenient version of herself to keep the relationship.
GOOD INTENTIONS CAN BE LOUD
Concern can become a project called: let’s improve her mood, choices and face.
A teenage girl needs an adult who sees a person rather than a set of symptoms to correct. Boundaries can be firm without contempt, sarcasm, or public shame.
That look is aimed at me
It may be tension, shame, overload, or an attempt to separate. Not every expression is a referendum on your parenting.
Closeness requires total honesty
Connection is not border control. Privacy can live alongside sensible safety rules.
THREE PRODUCTS · ONE PATH
Change the opening first. Then practise it in a real home.
Each product has one job. The guide gives you the map, the toolkit gives you usable language, and the programme helps the change survive for 21 days.
I Am Not Your Project
Rebuild contact without correcting every emotion, appearance choice, or decision.
- care without taking over
- boundaries without shaming
- repair after sarcasm or control
- signs that call for specialist help
$12launch price · then $16
Conversations Without the Eye Roll
Sentence and scenario cards for days when every word lands worse than intended.
- feelings without fast fixes
- privacy and phone boundaries
- text, walk and kitchen versions
- repair after embarrassment
$6launch price · then $8
21 Days: Close, Not Crowding
Daily micro-practice for closeness that does not suffocate and boundaries that do not humiliate.
- one task a day
- 15 minutes at most
- measure contact, not obedience
- a no-perfection emergency day
$24launch price · then $29
WHERE TO BEGIN
You do not have to do everything at once. Choose one move that can help today.
Each resource stands on its own. Start with what is actually happening in your home, then add another layer of practice only if you need it.
- NOW
Interrupt the automatic reaction
Use the free Repair Card when a conversation is beginning to derail.
- STEP 01
See what is really happening between you
The guide helps you tell care from control and silence from rejection.
- STEP 02
Find words for the difficult moment
The toolkit offers language for the moments when instinct and patience have left the room.
- STEP 03
Bring the insight into daily life
The 21-day practice turns one good idea into a series of small behaviours.
- IMPORTANT
Choose only what you need
You do not have to buy the full series. Each resource is useful on its own.
BASED ON RESEARCH, NOT HOROSCOPES
Warmth and autonomy do not rule out boundaries.
The programme translates research into behaviour in the kitchen, in the car and after a slammed door. Sources are visible; no single paper is sold as a miracle cure.
Clear expectations and awareness of a teenager’s life work best in a relationship built on trust.
Young people’s digital lives call for conversation and modelling, not bans alone.
Adolescent development combines growing autonomy with an enduring need for supportive adults.
THE CREATORS · MARLENA AND KRIS
We raised three children. They are all adults now — and we are still learning.
For thirty years we have been a happy couple who are still genuinely in love. One of us grew up in Central Europe, the other in the Americas; we have lived in different places and between cultures. These guides bring research into the reality of an actual home: conversations, mistakes, boundaries, apologies, and another attempt tomorrow.
We do not write as perfect parents. We write as parents who truly lived through this stage and learned that the relationship matters more than performing parental certainty.
30years together
3adult children
3languages
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Open the card without signing up↗Questions without gloss
Will this make my son talk?+
No — and that is healthy. The aim is a safer channel, not full access to his mind.
Does the guide blame parents?+
No. Responsibility for your own behaviour is not blame; it is the only part of the relationship you can change without coercion.
Do I need all three products?+
No. The core guide stands alone. The toolkit makes words easier to find; the programme supports implementation.
Are the products available yet?+
Not yet. You can open the free Repair Card now; launch information will be published on this page.
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